Finding Support after a Sudden death
When there is a sudden death, it is really important to have someone to talk to; and this is even more important when someone has ended thier own life. In the early days, simple caring support for each other , taking time to grieve and listen to each otheer’s grief will be the most helpful.
Most people will not need professional help to enable them to talk through their feelings, but some will. For this reason, we have put together some resources.
For emergency support
Samaritans T.116 123 http://www.samaritans.org
Available 24/7/365 for anyone who needs a listening ear
Shout T. 85258 http://www.giveusashout.org
Text messaging service for those in a crisis
Creating a safety plan http://www.stayingsafe.net/ST
Online resource to help people make a personal safety plan
Services that can help if more long term support would be helpful
http://www.cruse.org.uk 0808 808 1677 For anyone who has been bereaved
http://www.supportaftersuicide.org.uk Resources, information and links
http://www.ataloss.org Searchable database of services and organisations (for
example, you can search by cause of death, relationship to deceased, location etc)
http://www.sane.org.uk 0300 304 7000 For those experiencing a mental health problem, or supporting someone else:
http://www.papyrus-uk.org 0800 068 4141 For those under 35 who are struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about someone else:
http://www.bacp.co.uk/about-therapy/we-can-help/ Searchable database for counsellors / therapists
http://www.uk-sobs.org.uk Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) offers support for those bereaved or affected by suicide
Other information and sources of support
Help is at Hand
http://www.supportaftersuicide.org.uk/resource/help-is-at-hand
Help is at Hand is a booklet that can be read online or downloaded that addresses the days, weeks, or months after someone may have died by suicide. While aimed at relatives and friends, is relevant for anyone affected by the death and covers:
- What you may be feeling (feelings; how people grieve; what might and might not help)
- What may be happening (the practical processes; who is involved)
- People with a particular connection to the person who died (relatives; children; friends; fellow
- members of community; acquaintances)
- Helping someone who has been bereaved (what can – and may not – help)
- Getting through and facing the future
- Resources and organisations that can help
Talking to children
Talking to children will be difficult and they are likely to have many questions about what happened and how this can have happened. This will be especially so if they have experienced any other losses.
There are resources and help lines at:
The Ridgeway Churches in the Marches 